Hello again friends…sorry for the absence but, there have been quite a few things going on that have gotten in the way of my posting.
But, with that in mind. let me tell you what has been going on.
As you may know by my previous posts, I still have family in Puerto Rico living without the assurance that there will be electricity to light their home tonite.
Well, my daughter, D. and her family, has opened her home to my nephew, his wife and two daughters for their relocation to Cedar Park, Texas. The girls, 10 & 7 yrs. old, as expected, are adjusting well with the help of my two granddaughters, which are almost the same age as they are. To their mom and dad, again, as expected, this move has brought them challenges that need to be met so, not as easy for them. (Especially with the cold snap that just hit Texas yesterday vs. the tropical warm breezes of the Caribbean they are used to.)
To add to that, my son M. lives in Los Angeles, California where the forest fires are just on the other side of the mountain. So, he says he has a bag packed on-the-ready in case he has to head “out-of-town” at a moment’s notice.
Ok, now for our subject…Is it our fault?
Time Magazine’s award to the “Me Too” movement is well deserved. This movement has opened the door to those who were victimized, giving them the courage to air their grievances and name names. Maybe it’s just me but, I have noticed that all of the men accused of sexual harassment or inappropriate sexual behavior are in the over 50 age group.
You know the names so, there is no use in repeating them here.
Was it really the “unspoken” business culture that women, in order to advance in their field of endeavor, were to give in to the favor requests of their male superiors?
Apparently, yes. But, why did these ladies wait until now to bring it to the light of day? Why was it not shouted from the rooftops, that so-and-so subjected them to this unjustified behavior back then? Was it a conspiracy among men? Well, there might be a few dozen answers to that.
One thing I am sure of is, it did not start in the 60’s, 70’s or 80’s! This started a long time before that! The sad thing is that there are very few people from that era left to join in the conversation, to let us know what really went on back then.
Where or how did the male baby boomers learn this? I sure didn’t! Was it because the male was the “head of the household” and there were more housewives than women in the work place? Was dad the first and last word at home? Was “machismo” the understood law of the home and the office?
I know for a fact the “machismo” culture is alive and well in Latin and South America. As I was in charge of the Latin American division of the company I worked for, it gave me the opportunity to visit all but two countries in this region. Yes, I saw it for myself. The position that I held, gave me the authorization to set the rules and standards for our offices in these countries. The first one written in stone was…No Machismo! They worked for an American firm and that behavior was not to be condoned! No ifs, and’s or but’s! Local customs were not meant for this office. Some learned and some did not! Those that did not, were soon gone!
Yet, here at home, more and more men over 50. in all walks of life, are being accused of acting badly… so, maybe, it is our generation’s fault. Sad.
I would really like to know your opinion on this subject or any other you may think of.
Take care and I will attempt to make our next meeting a more humorous one.
See you next time at “The Over 50 Corner”