Hello again friends and welcome back to “The Over 50 Corner.”
If, by any chance, you had the time to read last week’s posting, you will recall that I mentioned that all of us should take the time to relate our history with our children and our grandkids!
Well, I received various comments on this including one from, no other than, my daughter who actually challenged me to “put up or shut up!”
So, here is the scenario…my granddaughters were out of school for spring break all of last week. My daughter, D., who is a school teacher, was also on a week’s leave and had planned to go with her mom, my wife M., to see a Broadway show in San Antonio, TX. This left granddad, me, to take care and entertain the girls for two days while the ladies took off and their dad was at work.
This was the first time that I was on my own with the girls. Remember, the eldest is 13 and her sister, 8. Two entirely separate age groups and interests! What to do? This was a task that, to be honest, I was slightly nervous about. How to keep them both on the same page. So, on we went!
On day one, we started by going out to breakfast! Bagels and pastries with juice and milk did the trick! (Got them both covered!) Not wasting any time, avoiding dead time, we headed out to the movies to see “A Wrinkle in Time” in 3-D! It is rated PG so, it filled the bill quite nicely. It was a bit “deep” for the younger one but, right up the alley for granddaughter #1. I explained the significance of the movie to #2 ie: 1.) never let anything separate you from your sibling and 2.) the road to your goals just might have some obstacles that you should overcome. Maybe some of us should reflect on these!
Quickly on to lunch at Chick-fil-a (another hit with both of them) and then home.
And then it happened! I sat them down and started our conversation with, “what is my name?” First answer, of course, was how they refer to me as. (Aito! Their version for the Spanish “abuelito” or grandfather.) Then came what everyone else calls me…Fred! (No, not what my wife and friends call me! I wanted to keep it clean!) It surprised me to find out that they did not know my proper name!
I continued with my parents names, heritage, my childhood, siblings, teenage years and continued until we reached the present. I’ve had a long life so, it took a while. (I did leave the depressing stuff out!)
To my surprise, they were actually interested! Granddaughter #1 actually took notes! Her first remark was, “by the time you were my age (13) you had lived in 3 different countries and 2 different states!” And the questions kept coming about almost everything! Did I have pets, where were my parents from, age differences among my siblings, etc…? Even wanting to know more about their mom and their uncle, my son.
There, I did it! Now, they want to know more about their grandmother (M.). I told them that they would have to get that information from her! Now, it’s her turn!
So, there we are my friends! I “put up” and backed my words! Now, I hope that that they will carry some of the info with them for years to come. The update now is, I have lived in (4) different countries and 5 different states!
As they now say in the movies, “Your mission, if you decide to accept it…” is to pass your personal history on as I did. You’ll be surprised at the reception it might have!
Take care and hope to meet up with you again at “The Over 50 Corner.”
Thanks again for all the comments! As you can see, I take them seriously and follow up on them!
Oh, in case you’re wondering about day #2. It was breakfast at IHop for pancakes and then to explore nearby caverns. All ended well and the girls still love me!