Hello again friends! Welcome back to “The Over 50 Corner!”
This week’s topic hits close to home for me…for others, right smack in the middle of their living room!
Are you…were you…or are you planning on being your “Mother’s/Father’s keeper?”
Well, if you are in our “Senior” age group, you may be taking on the responsibility of caring for your elderly parent in your own home. A loving and sacrificial task, or burden, that you have decided to take on. For this, you should be commended.
My mother, who is 92 years old, lives with my sister and brother-in-law and has done so for the last 15 or so years! God bless them for this as I could not have done so. I believe that 15 years ago, when mom was in her late 70’s, living with her was not the same situation that it has become today. She was self-sufficient and the only reason that she moved in with my sister was that the rent on her apartment was no longer affordable.
But again, that was 15 years ago. Today, the medical calamities are almost an everyday happening. The doctor visits are constant and the head knocking between her and my sister are a daily routine. This, of course, is taking a mental toll on both of them!
Forgetfulness, hearing loss, a generation gap, fear of being alone yet, wanting to be left alone, all contribute to this domestic chaos.
Each one complains about the other when not in their company!
This is not mentioning what my brother-in-law is having to live through!
Having a parent living with you in this time of their lives puts everyone in the household in an unenviable position. Lives and marriages are vulnerable! Patience is definitely, a virtue!
So, to those of you who have taken on this task, I do not envy you but, do admire you! To those who have done so in the past, as I know a few whose parent has since passed away, even in your grief, you may have regained your own life back! Be proud of yourself for what you did! And for those who are considering it, please consult with someone who has been in your position before making your final decision.
I know that commercial “assisted living” or “nursing” homes are expensive and there might not be another choice but, if there is, research, soul searching and serious considerations are tasks to be done before your decision is made.
Although she may not read this, a big “Thank You” to my sister and brother-in-law for their compassion, love and sacrifice. And, to you the parent caregiver, although you may not be acknowledged by your parent, a well deserved “Thank You” on their behalf!
Take care and hope to see you next time at “The Over 50 Corner.”
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